what is your ideal mate?

[Rain]

Am I the only one who believes that arranged marriages can work? I know, weird question.

Really, I don't want "love at first sight" anyway. I want to have that one good friend who, over the years, sees you at your best and your worst, knows what will set you off and does it anyway because you need to get over it (like stupid little things), somebody who will piss you off occasionally because that's the test of love. Somebody who has the guts to do the exact opposite of what you say, understand, and accept the consequences. Somebody, in my belief, who can sit through one of my tirades and not bat an eyelash because they know it will pass. Somebody who will indulge me in my little hobbies without telling me that it's a waste of time. Somebody who will laugh at me to remind me to laugh at myself.

Holy crap. I just described Spock. Eeek.

['Ì'awn Menari]

Am I the only one who believes that arranged marriages can work? I know, weird question.

i believe they can work. 

[Amaya]

Am I the only one who believes that arranged marriages can work? I know, weird question.

i believe they can work. 

I know they can work, I have a friend who has two wonderful boys with the wife his family found for him, and they have a wonderful relationship even if currently they have to live apart due to various circumstances.  However, their marriage works because culturally they both expect and understand arranged marriages.  It is much for dificult for someone from our culture where "marrying for love" is the more accepted standard.

[Rain]

I know they can work, I have a friend who has two wonderful boys with the wife his family found for him, and they have a wonderful relationship even if currently they have to live apart due to various circumstances.  However, their marriage works because culturally they both expect and understand arranged marriages.  It is much for dificult for someone from our culture where "marrying for love" is the more accepted standard.

I think the BOLD words sum it up quite well. Especially the understand part.

The trouble with marrying for love is that nobody can distinguish fleeting love from lasting love. Marriage is now over 50% chance of fail.

[Lolet]

I think arranged marriages, if done for the happiness of the couple, could definitely work.

[Mako]

Noooooo. Nonononononononononono. No. Kehe. Ke-he.

[Nyx]

If you ask me, it should be spontaneous, not necessarily love at first sight, but I like the idea of falling madly in love because you can, not loving someone because you're used to them and are expected to love them. Am I making sense? Haha

Holy crap. I just described Spock. Eeek.

What is up with you and Star Trek lately? Hrh!

Also, this is important:

Somebody who will indulge me in my little hobbies without telling me that it's a waste of time.

[Lolet]

I don't mean like the kind of arranged marriage where you HAVE to marry the guy. Just like where your parents are like, "This dude seems nice, check him out."

[Mako]

Oh, well my parents do that anyway At least my mom does.

[Lolet]

Mine don't, they're like, "Yer never gonna date EVAR!"

[Mako]

That was me until this year.

[Lolet]

Haha good for you.

[Eyamsiyu]

Lolet, dating even at your age is sort of iffy.  The nice thing is that you're VERY close to when you really can date.  And honestly the dating scene in high school is very hectic, and IMO just easier to avoid than engage in.  But that's me: you might like the chaotic nature of high school dating.

['Ì'awn Menari]

it also sux when society encourages teen dating...it makse some feel like they're nothing in society if they couldn't find a date in High School...cause that's expected...exccept for the outcasts. 

[bommel]

I've seen a girl a few days ago, maybe 13 or 14 and she looked like a hooker o0
It is scary that I will have to pay for them when they become pregnant with 16, abort school and have no job -.-

['Ì'awn Menari]

i knew a girl in 7th grade who was impregnated at 12 by her 19 year old boyfriend...granted this was in the Hampton area...and it's not common where i live now...but still...i hung out with those girls at lunch cause i had no one else to sit with.

[Eyamsiyu]

.... pregnant with 16....

So... are you saying that she'll beat the Octomom in number of kids pregnant with at once?

[Txur Niftxavang]

it also sux when society encourages teen dating...it makse some feel like they're nothing in society if they couldn't find a date in High School...cause that's expected...exccept for the outcasts. 

I was an outcast (kinda, still had alot of military friends),  not because I was a nerd, or whatever, but I was the quite cold guy,  stare at me wrong I'll murder your family type.  I'm still cold, I see women at walmart look at me funny, googly eyed, I don't know what todo. So, I just mind my own buisness. I remember someone told me I was a nice guy, but I'm put off as that one guy who was a loner, and liked to be left alone, but now yea.  It's hit, really hard.  I'm lonley, and I have no clue how to get a mate.    I'd say if I were an animal, I'd be a wolf,  that's my spirit animal that describes me best.   Idk if I scare people off, but I get looks, and it drives me mad.  

[Lolet]

A wolf is a pack animal...

I'd be a cat. You know, all fluffly and quiet.

Eh, most high school males are a little weird.

[Mako]

Yeah I'm definitely a wolf. Live in a pack and loyal to 1 mate, ever. Period.